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Just brought my dad home from the hospital today he is 71, you see he had been getting treatment for bladder cancer, now it has spread to his lungs and brain the reason why he went to the hospital was the tumors from the cancer are now pressing on his brain making him blackout.
Enjoy life why you can people., from what i have seen in the last week on the onocology floor,It would make a grown man cry, to see those young ones laying there in pain will rip your heart out.
I plan on in the near future to make a donation in his honor to St Jude in Memphis , I just lost my mother last april from COPD ,now this, to go back on the road will be one of the hardest things i have ever done ,the drs say he will likely not be sitting the next time i make it to, South Bend.

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Be strong Paperboy. Does he know you are there?
These are the times that car driving is tough, do what your heart tells you to do.

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Of all the things we can do with our time, it really is how we spend it with others or how they spend it with us that is remembered and means the most. And time goes by so quickly. What a difficult situation for you: I'm sure you are a great comfort to your father: and I'm sure he understands, even more than you realize, how important it is that whatever you do, you are able to be strengthened in yourself to continue on and do those things important for your living..... both while he is here and after he's gone. Remembering you and he in prayer this morning.

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My heart goes out to you Paperboy2. It's good you could be there. Yes, time is always to short.

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Sorry to hear of your father.
I lost my Job in 2000. I had not worked since, but I am now on Disability too. But it was also a Blessing. I got to spend alot of time with my father the last 5 years of his life. My father was a Diebetic since he was 16 years old. He worked in the past as a car Driver, & Shipping Docks for a Granite Company and a caring company.
Since 1985 he retired due to his sight. The last 5 years he was down hard, completely blind. He did pass away in 2005. As I said he was a Diebatic since he was 16 years old. Aug 14, 2005 they found out he had cancer, Aug 16, 2005 he passed away from Cancer.
My Dad passed away while I was away on Vacation. I talked to him on Saterday before and he knew he would not be here long. His last words to me was no matter what happen, stay till it was time for me to come home, that night he was put back into the Hospital. Monday Night he passed. I was supose to be home Saterday Morning, his Funeral was Saterday after noon. Due to a delay of my first Flight, I missed my connection fights and got home 2 hours after his Funeral.
Spend as much time with him, you'll be better with it.

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I feel ya'. I just lost a friend to cancer Monday. He was 39 years old. Cancer doesn't know age. Bert smoked all his adult life and it took him way early.

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Yes cigarettes again here also, I guess the generation my parents grew up in didnt know how bad cancer sticks are, BTW pops is mobile and wants a smoke right now

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You have my sympathies for your father. While my father is still in relatoively good health, I hear stories every day of people dying of various causes. My father and his wife both work full time as Hospice nurses, caring for people in the latter stages of their lives, and some of the stories are heartbreakers. They help to make the passing better for people, but it still leaves a hurt behind with their families.

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My mother passed away a few years ago from MS. In her last couple of years people tried to get her to stop smoking. Some Church people were adamant about it. My opinion, my families opinion and her Doctors opinion was leave her alone. She didn't have much time and stopping wouldn't have done her any good. It wasn't the reason she was dying either. She smoked until she couldn't any longer. There's a point where quitting is meaningless.

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Paperboy2 ; sorry to hear about your dad,
I do know how hard this is on you .My mom died of COPD several years ago and my dad passed a little over two years ago. I do regret that I did not see much of him in his last few years of his life.
Spend as much time as your able with your dad you will not regret it.


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Thats the best advice you could ever give and I hope many will take to heart.
I also know how you

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We relate so well to close personal tragedy ... but we forget just the daily life contacts we have with others. It is always best to share best wishes and genuine concern for those around us, and those we come into contact with.
The simple fact you "forgot", or "neglected" to say I love you, I care for you, I'm on your side, most any words of encouragement unsaid can stick in your craw when you realize it is now to utter them.
Take time to care for others, and they will care for you.
Monty;believes in Karma .. BIG TIME!

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I lost my dad back in 1999 (when he was just 60), although his life passed because of self-inflicted damage when he crawled inside a bottle with Drs. Beam and Daniel and refused to leave. Nevertheless, he was a 28-year Army veteran (some of his ribbons included: two Bronze Stars, one Purple Heart and Legion of Merit) with three combat tours; and got his final wish when he was buried in Arlington with full military honors.
We knew the end was near - probably two months out; but he died two days after my son learned to walk and my brother's daughter was born. My son had lost his mother's mother six months earlier (smoking-related heart attack). Two grandparents he'll only know through pictures.
But anyway, this stuff always reminds me of a song by M + The Mechanics called In The Living Years. Everyone should listen to it every now and then and think about the things we "could say" or "should say" to someone but never get the chance before they pass on.
Flying Dutchman; extends sympathy for your situation

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I don't check this forum too often but I saw your post about your father. Sorry about your Dad. I lost my father to cancer when he was 54 and I was 8 years old. Hardly any time with my Dad so spend as much time with yours as you can.
On the subject of smoking, yes, my father smoked and so did my mother and so do I (wish I didn't). But I remember my mother telling me that when my father was about 6 months from dying (he knew it) that they had a family gathering. One of his sisters said to my mother why is Bob (my Dad) still smoking??
My Mother shot right back at her " the man's dying, if he wants to smoke, I won't stop him".
BWB (Back with Brinks)
NoX

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Paperboy2,
So very sorry to hear about your Dad. My wife just went though this with her Dad who was 73.His last wish after being hospitalized 2 days before Christmas for a light heart attack.Then being diagnosed with prostate cancer was to spend his final days at home with his loved ones. He was granted that wish with the help of hospice and his two son and my wife and myself helping make his last days the best they could be!
My wife lost her mom 3 years ago to cancer also so its been really hard on her!
He left this world 3 weeks ago Monday.He was an Army veteran who served in Korea and was given the tradition military style funeral.Nothing moves me more then the 21 gun salute and the playing of taps!
We will keep you and your family in our hearts and prayers during this most difficult time!
Just spend every second you can with him and the rest will take care of its self.

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Paperboy2, I do understand what you are going through. My father was diagnosed with cancer in '87, went into remission for a year then the cancer resurfaced in '89. We were in the process of moving when we received the call he was not doing well and had decided against further treatment but still had a few months to go. We made the move and within 2 weeks of receiving that call, made the trip from AL to OR to visit. We were there for 3 weeks. During that time he ended up in the hospital twice. When the time came to leave, I knew it would be the last time I saw him. That was the hardest good bye I ever had to live through. I knew there were not going to be any more hellos and I was seeing him for the last time. One week later he entered the hospital for the last time. Two weeks later he was gone.
It's not easy to make these decisions in times like these and certainly no one else can make them for you. Wishing your road ahead is as smooth as possible.